I was bored ..well,while watching my surroundings I asked myself how curious a person can be and which results will come out if you don't get what you want.
The Project would start,by changing my status from 'single' to 'in a relationship' and just watch what would happen.
The condition was: That I would say the truth,and not lie to the people who would ask me about my status.
First of all,I want to say that I'm not a great or popular human,just a plain normal one ^^' xD So the results weren't that great,like I expected to.
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On the first day when I posted my status being 'in a relationship',no one responded to it. I was pretty curious and active and checked almost every hour if I got any response.
Days later,I got a response from a classmate who slightly asked me about my status,because I talked about a good male friend of mine. When I ignored her,she was getting more curious and with every 'attack' or more question she was getting slightly forceful. After saying,that I don't want to comment her statement, I could see that she was dissapointed and a bit annoyed but after a few days,she gave up and act like nothing happened.
A few days later while I was babysitting,a person who I rarely have contact with suddenly asked me about my status. And also here, I answered by "No comment". She was curious,too and asked me why I didn't want to give her a clear response. She asked me if I were ashamed and talked with me seriously about it.
I didn't change my attitude and still responsed with "No comment" and tried to distract her with other topics. She eventuelly went with the flow and we talked about other things and forget about the status. But since then,we never talked again.
Some days before the closing date,an old classmate who I had some contact with,not much but we still talked. More than friends but less than 'real' friends in my mind. He directly asked me about my status. Like the cases before I said that I didn't want to answer his question.
Surprising or more shocking,he had totally different attitude to my response and was very angry and frustrated. He wasn't insulting me but he wrote a message with his feelings which surprised me. Through that I could see his image or view of me. I couldn't tell him the truth since,because I would break rule of this project then. Well, alltogether we never had any contact after that.
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I experienced some interesting events. During these events..I can say that I felt proud or more..the feeling of knowing something,that the others want to know.. So to speak, I felf I had power. It was a positive feeling.
What this project showed me is:
Curiosity is a normal thing. Because you want to know something,so you can get the feeling of satisfaction. Depending on the person,it will affect you of how curious or eager you can be.
By not knowing something,you will get the opposite of satisfaction,dissapointment,frustration and sometimes even anger and hatred.
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(I'm really sorry to all people who suffered because of my selfish project. I sincerly apologize)
That's a really interesting project! I think its really cool that you were able to be strong enough to just reply "no comment." I would have spilled the secret! I think the reason people ask, even if they might not be close, is because people seem to genuinely care about all in their peer/social goups, most of the time. I hope that you are able to keep the positive feelings you had when you did your project!
AntwortenLöschenThank you,I'm glad you like it. Maybe in the future I will do more experiments which interest me. :)
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